The researchers say while humor is very important in flirting, you shouldn’t necessarily lead with it. Kennair says, “Smiling and eye contact are important. Then you can build your flirting skills from that base, using more advanced tactics.”
If you want to employ the best flirting method right off the bat you’ll want to use humor.
Researchers from the US and Norway say we flirt to attract a potential partner, regardless of whether we stop before it gets that far or not, and there are many methods of flirting, but one is most effective.
Researcher Leif Kennair explains, “People think that humor, or being able to make another person laugh, is most effective for men who are looking for a long-term relationship. It’s least effective for women who are looking for a one-night stand. But laughing or giggling at the other person’s jokes is an effective flirtation tactic for both sexes.”
Study co-author Rebecca Burch adds, “It’s not only effective to be funny, but for women, it is very important that you show your potential partner that you think they are funny.”